Is he into me or not?

He wants the right girls to come to him? Its like saying that he wants money to fall from the sky! Seems to me that he is hurting from his previous relationship and does not want to pursue anyone at the moment. If I were you, I would not be too close to him, stay as friends, and when he is ready for a new relationship, he will do the pursuing. Guys are usually very open and active when they want a relationship.